July 16th marks the third anniversary of the passing of my son, Ian Clarke MacKenzie. Ian would be on his way to turning 28 years old on October 16, 2019. The night before his death, he and his dad had a very heartfelt conversation outside on our patio, after a wonderful dinner of grilled salmon and vegetables.
Ian said that he hoped, that by the time he was 28, he'd be well situated in his profession, earning good money, in a happy and stable romantic relationship, and looking forward to perhaps getting married. This was a huge revelation, coming from a young man who tended to hold his dreams and desires very tightly to himself.
By the next morning, Ian was gone, physically at least.
I did not learn of this conversation until a few days after that surreal Saturday morning. Bill was so proud of Ian for confiding in him, and he saw in his son a new maturity and sense of responsibility that every parent longs to see in their child.
Ian, for all the new found maturity, made a fatefully poor decision in the early morning of July 16, 2016. Perhaps that new found maturity lead him to believe that he was impervious to danger, or greater than the sum of the substances he put in his body that evening.
He left us pondering a future in which he would attain success, both professionally and personally. He also left us with 24 years of wonderful memories. Devious prankster, determined student, thoughtful friend, excellent salesman, loving brother and son. These words only scratch the surface of who Ian really was. I will never know what other descriptors could have been applied to him as he grew as a person. The one I chose to use now is Angel.
Ian received his Bachelor of Science degree from California State University, Chico's College of Business, with an emphasis in Marketing. He was the highest selling Assistant District Manager in his ADP, Inc region. Ian had staked out a road to success and was moving rapidly on it.
As a tribute to my son, I give you the recipe for Llano Seco Jackson Wonder Beans with Ian's Fire blend and Vegetables. Ian had fire in his belly and a love of spicy food that bordered on the pathological. He was a force to be reckoned with!
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